So today we got an email from school that the last day of school the kids can dressed in casual clothes. I’m talking 4th graders. Now every time there is a casual dress day at school they have some standard rules. No shorts (which is a bit funny coz their uniform is shorts 🤭), no crop tops, no short skirts. I get where they come from. We r in India and here such clothes are still not very socially accepted other than the upper class. And they probably say these because seniors can get a bit out of hand in such situations.

So their standard email comes and starts another WhatsApp bombardment of messages on the class group. Someone had a problem because the rules are only for girls (imagine boys in hot shorts or spaghetti tops or crop tops🤔) and someone had a problem because they felt these are too regressive and someone else said we rather send them in uniform than follow the restrictions! when I said these are standard rules especially because of seniors the question was …. Why? I chose not to reply. I don’t want to get into this debate. Everyone has their own opinions and they are free to express.

In the society we belong to we are habituated to live in male staff at home. They cook, they clean and do mundane chores around the house. We live in a multi storey house in a joint family. And it’s impossible for any one family member (which will have to be me) to do everything. Especially the cooking part….. no…. Not me. So when P or A are at home they are expected to sit properly and make sure they are dressed properly (for us that means no strappy clothes or crop tops ). They do wear shorts but they have to learn how to sit properly in them.

A friend once asked me why restrictions at home. And why can they wear anything outside but not inside the house. The answer is when they go out they are in front of strangers. They don’t have easy access to them (as of now as they don’t venture out on their own) when they are at home, they show themselves to the staff who is here 24×7. They have direct access to them. They look at them all the time. These are people from small villages who have never seen girls dressed like this. They are not used to seeing girls expose their bodies. I don’t know what’s going on their minds and I don’t want to give them ideas.

I’m not saying not exposing won’t give them ideas. If someone has to have pervert thoughts it can be even if someone is fully covered. That’s besides the point. But at least that much I can save them.

So I really see the point here when school says no to such clothes. And besides every school has their own rules. Why is it so important for your child to wear those clothes to that one day when they go to school? If school said no just don’t. It’s their rule and every school has a right to have their own dress codes. Now a days it seems the norm has become to oppose everything. School does anything there are always people who will have problems. Just chill ya….. no body is perfect. And definitely there must be a reason behind it. Why don’t you talk directly to the management about it if you are so concerned. Why are you spamming the group 🙄