A couple of days back I burnt my thumb in the kitchen. When A saw me with my thumb in ice and covered with medicine she asked me what happened. I said I hurt myself and hurts a lot. She said “koi baat nahin mamma. Theek ho jayega ” she said it with such conviction and confidence that I had to believe her (even though it seemed like it was still on fire after 3 hours in ice). After some time she again came to me and asked “mamma theek ho gaya kya?” When I said no she told me show it to her and she gave me a little kissie on my thumb “ab theek ho jayega” .Every couple of hours she kept checking on me and even the next morning she asked me if it’s ok now! 

Every child has their own personality. While A at 2.7 years kept so much care of me, P just asked me a couple of times if it was ok and the next day it was forgotten 😄 I can’t expect P to be the same way because I know she just isn’t like that. It’s not in her nature to be very caring about anyone. You can even make that out in the way they hug me. A has a wholesome warm hug and she will hold on to me tight. Whereas P has a pretty casual hug. 

Just like in adults we can see different personalities, the same way we see them in little kids. They are all different and they all like different things and want to do different things. And as parents we must understand and support our children in the decisions they make. However big or small. I’d love to become a parent who can accept my children for who they are and not for what I want them to be. It’s difficult. God knows it is!!! But it’s not impossible. Our upbringing, our culture, our society( and if I may say Facebook and parenting books/blogs)… have set some norms. What a person should ideally be. But then let’s be realistic…. we live in a real world. Not an ideal world. I’m going to try my best. I hope you do too…..