Since the past few days I have been observing how fast my 7 year old P is growing up. Talking like such a grown up kid! Today while putting her to bed I just hugged her and asked her can I be your best friend? And you be mine. At first I think she couldn’t comprehend what I’m saying. As it sunk in she had tears in her eyes and started crying mildly. She said “then you won’t be my mamma?” I had to assure her that I’m mamma first and then your friend. And you also be my friend just like you are friends with your friends in school. I would love it if you shared with me and spoke to me like you do to your friends in school. 

But I was in for more crying and tear shedding! She wouldn’t just stop crying and I had no clue what was going on in her mind. I had to calm her down and then even be a bit stern. I said just stop crying and tell me what you are thinking! And she said the most touching thing ” you don’t have any best friend. Only I am your best friend” and she was feeling so bad about it! Again I had to calm her down and somehow convince her that papa is also my best friend. She was so upset that I don’t have any friends!

It really touched me the way she has observed and come to this conclusion. It’s true I don’t have any close friends here. And I don’t have much of a social life either. We do feel many times that kids don’t care about our feelings but they prove it time and again that they care. They observe every detail of our life and register it in their brains. Kids learn best by example and observing the elders at home. Language, manners, self esteem, culture. All come when they see how their parents are. Parents are the universal teachers. Teachers at school can teach academics or arts and stuff. But true values only come from parents. 

I feel blessed to have P and A as my daughters. I’m glad their souls chose us as their parents. Today I want to make a promise to myself. I will try everyday not to yell at my kids. And I’m setting a 30 day challenge for myself starting tomorrow. I’m going to report back everyday on whether I was able to keep it. Anyone in with me on this? Please leave a comment if you want to take up this challenge too. And everyday you too can put in your confession in the comments 😃