I had to take A for her immunisation today. Had been long pending. Don’t ask me how long…. I have to go for the next 2-3 months monthly to make up 🙄 I think it’s the worse thing of all…. we deliberately bring upon pain on our babies. First the prick and then the fever. My poor doll is burning with fever and crying with pain. 
I actually dint realise how painful it will get. When the doctor said matter of factly that it will pain for a day or two…. I was like,  ya it’s ok. What can some pain do. And kids should be used to pain also. But what I wasn’t prepared for was the pain I will go through seeing her crying. She kept saying “yahan pe dukh raha hai” and pointing out. But she was also so easily distracted! In between her tears if I showed her some toy did something funny she would just burst out laughing. 

It’s so easy to distract babies and help them get their mind off something. As adults we loose this quality somewhere. When we sulk…. WE SULK! But beware! Some babies are like P, who would NEVER get distracted. If I tried to divert her mind to something else she would cry even louder!! And nothing has changed. Even at the age of 7 she is still like that. 

Once we had gone to a cousin’s house for dinner or something. P was around 3 or 4 years old. She was refusing to leave from there even though she was tired and her eyes were red with sleep. So my cousin told her go home… I have kept a gift for you at your house. Mamma will give it to you. And I was staring at her…. because if you say something to P it’s as good as a patthar ki lakir. You dare not “not do that”. My cousin thought she will forget by the time we reach home ( about half an hour) and will go off to sleep. But NO! This is P we are talking about. She stayed awake and as soon as we entered the house she was like where is the gift bua has kept for me! I had to rummage through my store room at almost midnight to pull out something for her coz she just wouldn’t listen to anything!

There are 2 things here… use distraction when you can but don’t promise things you can’t do. Don’t say I will do this if you do that (especially if it’s something you really can’t) or if you don’t do this I will do that or I won’t give you that. That way the child will slowly loose trust in what you say. Because you say something but don’t fulfill it. It teaches the child to stay true to their word too. Coz they always see that mamma and papa always stick to what they say. It’s a quality you are slowly imbibing in your child. 

Although sometimes I feel even though I try to practice this to the maximum why doesn’t P stick to her word? I promise this is the last time mamma. And the next thing you know the promise is long forgotten. Can someone answer this riddle? Why do children not keep their promises? Is it because they really don’t understand the meaning of a promise? The word is so over used that the true meaning is lost 🤔

Good night! I’m preparing for another sleepless night 😀 coz school has started for P which means my day starts at 5:45 am. And A is running temperature…. need I say any more!